How to Make an Appointment

 

List Your Interests

Make a list of the your likes/dislikes to share with the dominatrix, preferably before your first session, so that she will understand what you want from your appointment.  If you aren’t sure what to include on your list, pay attention to your fantasies: if you fantasize about a certain fetish frequently, you will probably enjoy it in session.

How To Write An Introduction

Write a polite, submissive, concise email or text outlining your specific interests including your thresholds (i.e. light spanking, heavy flogging).

You must include whatever information she has requested or you might not receive an answer.

Be sure to pay an online tribute or send a gift card if requested (extra points if not requested).

Dominatrices often screen applicants by ignoring the ones that fail to demonstrate their sincerity. This is necessary because there are so many applicants and many are insincere.  

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Be on time. Early arrival is as bad as late.

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Be discreet outside of her studio. She doesn’t want her neighbors to see clients waiting around, it is best to stay in your car until immediately prior to your session. Obviously, arriving in attire other than street wear would be an indiscretion.

 

Do not talk about S&M outside her studio.

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Unless requested, you do not have to send a photo of yourself.

Especially do not engage in play outside her studio.

Do not kneel outside her door or call her “Mistress” in the hallway.

Leave play for the privacy of her chambers where such behavior is proper.

Speak up immediately about any safety concerns or if you are not enjoying the session - an experienced Pro-Domme will appreciate and utilize the information. 

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What to Expect in Session

A receptionist might answer the door or the dominatrix may answer in street clothes. You might have to wait in a room for her to finish up with another client. You might have to fill out a questionnaire about your likes/dislikes. You might be required to pay up front. You might be left to take off your clothes after a brief meeting with the dominatrix.

 

 

She might give you a safeword (a word that will let her know you can’t take more of the same) before she starts to play.

 

Act according to her direction - some dominatrices demand strict adherence to conduct befitting a slave, others don’t care if you act submissive.

 

Don’t have unrealistic expectations. ­ The session will not match your fantasies perfectly. And definitely do not bring a line-by-line script. Be open to her and let her do her thing ­you might find it better than your script.

 

 

What NOT to Expect in Session

Realize that when a dominatrix says “no sex” she truly means it in the broadest interpretation.

There will be no sex of any kind.

None.

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Know that she won’t be taking off her clothes, dancing, massaging, or letting you kiss intimate body parts,

go see someone else for these activities.

 

 

How to Be Invited Back

Be clean. Really, really clean.

Be respectful. Be obedient.

If you want to make an impression, bring her a little something such as a gag, blindfold, scented candle, gift card or flowers. Better yet, ask her if she has a wish list or something specific she would appreciate.

Understand that she may have another client waiting, don’t hang around so long that you put her into an uncomfortable situation.

Help her to clean up.

Keep your curiosity about her to yourself rather than asking personal questions.

Demonstrate your gratitude, tell her how great the session was and that you want to see her again. It is not too early to book your next appointment.

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Written by Simone Justice